A father is called to set the culture and principles of the family. We, with the support of our wives, can be empowered and systematically grow the culture of our families. Our children, growing up in this environment, will have a greater chance of becoming individuals with strong confidence and character.
The first 12 years of a child’s life is the most important time to impart knowledge, values, security and confidence to the child. Being a father, trainer and family life educator, I saw that children are like “sponges”. They absorb nearly everything they see, hear and feel!
This is the reason why we as parents need to be thoroughly involved in our children’s lives. No one can replace the role of a father and mother in the child’s life. In the 1st twelve years, a child’s entire world rests on his parents. How a father leads his wife and family will have a great and permanent impact on his children’s life.
Boundaries need to be set in the household and children need to adhere to it. For example, I believe that during dinnertime, it should be a time of fellowship and quality time with family members. So I will enforce that the television be switched off. Also mobile devices are not allowed. So if my children use an iPhone or watches TV that time, he is crossing boundaries and discipline will be enforced. And the boundaries need to be clear and discipline needs to be consistent.
Discipline needs to be carried out in a spirit of love, not punishment. Every day, we need to communicate love to our children. In this environment of love, our children will feel very secure, loved and strong in their spirits. When discipline needs to be enforced, the children will know that daddy does it out of love for them.
I believe as we are clear about our values and convictions, love our wives and be of ONE mind with them, love our children and set CLEAR boundaries for them, our children will be obedient and submit to our leadership as fathers.
There is only ONE way of leadership, that is ROLE MODELLING.
Father as Leader III
A father is called to set the culture and principles of the family. We, with the support of our wives, can be empowered and systematically grow the culture of our families. Our children, growing up in this environment, will have a greater chance of becoming individuals with strong confidence and character.
The first 12 years of a child’s life is the most important time to impart knowledge, values, security and confidence to the child. Being a father, trainer and family life educator, I saw that children are like “sponges”. They absorb nearly everything they see, hear and feel!
This is the reason why we as parents need to be thoroughly involved in our children’s lives. No one can replace the role of a father and mother in the child’s life. In the 1st twelve years, a child’s entire world rests on his parents. How a father leads his wife and family will have a great and permanent impact on his children’s life.
Boundaries need to be set in the household and children need to adhere to it. For example, I believe that during dinnertime, it should be a time of fellowship and quality time with family members. So I will enforce that the television be switched off. Also mobile devices are not allowed. So if my children use an iPhone or watches TV that time, he is crossing boundaries and discipline will be enforced. And the boundaries need to be clear and discipline needs to be consistent.
Discipline needs to be carried out in a spirit of love, not punishment. Every day, we need to communicate love to our children. In this environment of love, our children will feel very secure, loved and strong in their spirits. When discipline needs to be enforced, the children will know that daddy does it out of love for them.
I believe as we are clear about our values and convictions, love our wives and be of ONE mind with them, love our children and set CLEAR boundaries for them, our children will be obedient and submit to our leadership as fathers.
There is only ONE way of leadership, that is ROLE MODELLING.
Aaron Graham Tay, Certified Family Life Educator
Aaron Graham Tay
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