Fatherhood is the highest calling which is a man can respond to. When I was willing to accept the full responsibility of being a father, my entire heart started to change. No longer was I thinking about myself, my career ambitions, the size of my bank account, my car, my toys and gadgets, etc. These things, which I so favored in the past, gradually lost its luster over time.

I started to care about very different things.

1. How do I want my child to grow up?
2. What values do I want to impart to them?
3. How do I impart these values and practices into their hearts and lives?
4. What culture do I want to build for my family?
5. How am I role modeling for my children?

After 2 years into fatherhood, I realized that fatherhood is so fulfilling, yet it is a daunting task. We cannot do it alone. We need a band of brothers, fathers who truly care about their families to gather and support one another. A man can father a child by making his wife pregnant who will give birth to a child. But to FATHER a growing child in its truest sense is a totally different endeavor.

A father is called to lead his family, together with his wife. It is not about male chauvinism. Every father in himself cannot effectively bring up his family and children. We men need our wives. And the best gift a father can give to his child is not an education, but the security that daddy and mummy love each other.

However, a father is RESPONSIBLE for how his family and children turn out. He must not be absent; he must not shrink from his responsibilities, he MUST lead and show his children how to live with character and principles in this time and age.

Aaron Graham Tay, Certified Family Life Educator